Tis me. Tis Tis Ohohoho! I blog funny and cute things and cool science stuff mainly. Maybe some funny show gifs. Pro- do whatever you want so long as you don't hurt no one in the process ya dig?
ideal living situation is what i call the ‘sitcom special’ : having all your closest friends live in the same apartment building or neighborhood where you each have your own space but can wander in and out of eachothers homes at will, seemingly always welcome and never at bad times. and also all of you only have jobs when its important to the plot.
This is great especially for women in the workplace who have learned kinda self-demeaning patterns of behavior in order to not be seen as a bitch. I started communicating this way in my VERY male dominated field and people definitely started taking me at least slightly more seriously. If that makes sense
Even in my heavily female-dominated industry (and office), using this kind of phrasing sees me taken more seriously by management, HR, and clients. I also find that for things like requesting PTO or schedule flexibility, I’m more likely to get uncomplicated agreement from the company if I phrase it as a statement of intention rather than a request for permission. This also goes for asking for accommodations; “X is not going to work, I need Y and Z” is a lot more effective than “I would like Y and Z, if it’s not too much trouble.”
I highly recommend these phrases for any individual. When utilized with good context that avoids adding passive aggressiveness, these phrases convey confidence, assurance, and capability. Those qualities are admirable so people respect you more if they believe you have them, even if you’ve made an error because you’re also taking accountability and proceeding without groveling or getting defensive.
If you speak like you know what you’re doing, people are going to give you a good faith take that you are correct. Likewise, if you apologize frequently for yourself for insufficient reasons or act insecure in your desires or proposals, people presume you have reason to be insecure or apologize.
These are also easier for the other party to deal with. The responses being replaced feel more humble or less demanding when you’re writing them but they’re actually asking the other person to do very slightly more work. For a busy person getting their tenth organise-a-meeting email for the morning, being told a time and checking their calendar to see if it’s free is slightly more convenient for them than being asked to propose a time themselves. Receiving a courteous but self-assured response is marginally less emotional work than getting an apology or insecure-sounding backpedal where they have to spend a second trying to figure out if you’re being polite or if you need reassurance. Not only do these replacement phrases make you sound more competent and confident and give you more control, they also make you very slightly easier to work with, and if you’re interacting with the same people all the time, that adds up.
one time I had a dream that I unlocked a secret never-before-discovered achievement in Disco Elysium by squeezing into various nooks and crannies and got a special copotype called “Crevice Cop: seek out and inhabit crevices like some kind of man-spider” and I thought yeah!!! man-spider!!! crevice cop!!! this game GETS me!!!
and then I woke up to find that I had fallen partially down into the gap between my partner’s bed and the wall and was horrifically contorted and in agonizing bodily pain from sleeping in a position only comfortable to a brown recluse
I have never seen someone escape the cycle of suffering and reach true and perfect zen the way that one of my D&D players, an honest-to-god tenured college dean and professor, does when he inhabits his 7 INT bardlock elf prettyboy. Brain goes in a jar on the shelf for two hours. Nothing between those pointy ears but one jingle bell rolling back and forth. Refers to his patron as his “sugar mama” and That Warlock Cantrip as “Elvis blast.” You can SEE the player knowing and suspecting things and gleefully not acting on them. I love it so much. Next week I’m gonna see if I can bait him into fucking a vampire milf. I bet it’ll work
UPDATE: despite the best efforts of the orc fighter/paladin, he did in fact fuck the vampire milf
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